Rad Dad Tag

Character 145 – Dad’s who dig

This one is for my Dads or fathers who dig, especially my vinyl junkies. I took my son to the record store a few times and although he wasn’t as excited as I was, I’m happy I got to do that. I will leave my records for him one day. Is there a record that comes to mind when you first started digging? Did your parents take you to look for music at record store, swap meet, convention, or thrift store? Who is a dad you know of that still digs? You want a print of this?
The LP the dad is holding is a remix of the record “TAXI” by Sly & Robbie; a record I grew up hearing in the house.

Urban Dads- Dad groups

This is a really touching video, so inspiring to see. Great to see groups like this, Fathers Incorporated (ATL), Black Men Smile(ATL), Fathers Corps (Bay Area), and others doing the work.

Rad Families

Hey parents and folks who know parents to be the new anthology of Rad Dads, moms, and parents edited by the founder of Rad Dad Tomas Moniz. I’m happy to be a part of this book and to hold space with other parents when talking about the love, struggles, and strife. It features joints I’ve seen from the Rad Dad magazine and other pieces from zines. You can cop the book here at PM Press.

Here is some more info about the book:

Rad Families: A Celebration honors the messy, the painful, the playful, the beautiful, the myriad ways we create families. This is not an anthology of experts, or how-to articles on perfect parenting; it often doesn’t even try to provide answers. Instead, the writers strive to be honest and vulnerable in sharing their stories and experiences, their failures and their regrets.

Gathering parents and writers from diverse communities, it explores the process of getting pregnant from trans birth to adoption, grapples with issues of racism and police brutality, probes raising feminists and feminist parenting. It plumbs the depths of empty nesting and letting go.
Some contributors are recognizable authors and activists but most are everyday parents working and loving and trying to build a better world one diaper change at a time. It’s a book that reminds us all that we are not alone, that community can help us get through the difficulties, can, in fact, make us better people. It’s a celebration, join us!

Contributors include Jonas Cannon, Ian MacKaye, Burke Stansbury, Danny Goot, Simon Knaphus, Artnoose, Welch Canavan, Daniel Muro LaMere, Jennifer Lewis, Zach Ellis, Alicia Dornadic, Jesse Palmer, Mindi J., Carla Bergman, Tasnim Nathoo, Rachel Galindo, Robert Liu-Trujillo, Dawn Caprice, Shawn Taylor, D.A. Begay, Philana Dollin, Airial Clark, Allison Wolfe, Roger Porter, cubbie rowland-storm, Annakai & Rob Geshlider, Jeremy Adam Smith, Frances Hardinge, Jonathan Shipley, Bronwyn Davies Glover, Amy Abugo Ongiri, Mike Araujo, Craig Elliott, Eleanor Wohlfeiler, Scott Hoshida, Plinio Hernandez, Madison Young, Nathan Torp, Sasha Vodnik, Jessie Susannah, Krista Lee Hanson, Carvell Wallace, Dani Burlison, Brian Whitman, scott winn, Kermit Playfoot, Chris Crass, and Zora Moniz.

Editor: Tomas Moniz • Foreword by Ariel Gore
Publisher: PM Press
ISBN: 978-1-62963-230-8
Published: 10/01/2016
Format: Paperback
Size: 8×5
Page count: 296
Subjects: Family-Relationships

Rad Families Anthology

All you Rad Dad’s and families out there! Rad Dad is back with a new anthology of works. Peep this message from the founder Tomas Moniz….and order the book for your store, library, or home
Hello, it’s Tomas Moniz, editor and writer and creator of RAD DAD (zine, magazine, & books). After a hiatus following the release of our final magazine issue, we at the RAD DAD collective are back with an exciting birth announcement: RAD FAMILIES is due around September! 

It’s a vibrant & necessary anthology of writings by so many amazing people (including a number of trans, queer, & POC voices) all examining what it means to create family! 

Helps us spread the word, set up an event, & create community!

Questions email tomas.moniz@gmail.com.

In solidarity!


Rad Dad mag is out!

You’ve been waiting for this last magazine issue of Rad Dad Magazine? Here it go, if you didnt cop one, support that. If you already got the message, think of a young father who don’t know yet. We fathers have to converse, chop it up, share wisdom, and just relate so we can raise these babies right.

Daddy Thoughts 9-Accept responsibility part one

This post will be broken up into two parts because it is very long.
Today I get a call from one of his maestra’s telling me my
boy is reading a lot in class. At first, I think “Oh wow, that’s a good thing”.
But it turns out the teacher asked him to put his book away and pay attention
to other class activities. I am super excited that he is reading without anyone
telling him to. I’m glad that he finds happiness in it on his own. It should be
some form of entertainment, learning, and escape all at the same time. But, the
problem is listening.
This past year it was tough because I felt like a broken
record. I was repeating myself and asking him to do the same things day in and
day out. Brush your teeth, hurry up, finish eating, take a shower, wash your
dish, etc. It got to the point where it was starting to annoy me, so I know he
was annoyed. I thought about how to handle this because he had no problems
remembering to turn on my computer and watch a cartoon or a documentary about
World War 2. So, I made a list-something I love to do-of all of the things I
wanted him to do. The things he would be responsible for. And I made a list of
all of the privileges he gets with help from him of course.
Now I know some parents will disagree with the method, but
it has worked for me. I’m strict. My dad was strict, now I’m strict. My mom was
strict about some things, but generally she was more lenient that my dad was.
Now, I feel like that pattern is happening again with my son. But, I feel much
more comfortable expressing emotion and feeling. I tell him I love him all of
the time. I try to tell him how I feel, etc. And I ask that he do the same.
Now, back to the list of things. I decided I wanted to
change it to a chart. So, I looked up responsibility charts online and found a
lot of different examples for chores and many other things. I’m still trying to
figure out allowance and jobs that I will pay him for, but what was nagging,
arguments, frustration, whining, and yelling has turned into a more positive pattern.
My partner helped me organize the chart. When he handles his morning activities
(brushing teeth, making his bed, etc) he gets a point. When he cleans his
room  (sweeps, dusts, cleans up,
organizes) he gets two points. And there are more responsibilities. But
basically I award him for handling these things I’ve laid out with time to
watch cartoons, play video games, or choose a dessert. I’ve also asked him to
list other privileges he wants like sleep over’s, going out to the movies, or
buying legos. These other things require “saving”.

This has worked out great because now, I just say go look at
your list of things to do and handle it (based partially on other parents
recommendations too) and he does it. If he doesn’t then he doesn’t get to do
the stuff he wants to on my weekend. He forgot to do his chores once. I didn’t
remind him. And when the time came to chill out on the weekend, there was no TV,
no computer, and no privileges. He was pissed! But he learned a lesson that
day, and hasn’t missed his chores since. I try not to punish him, but rather
award him for the stuff he is able to handle. It has improved our relationship
greatly because in 2013, my fiancée, myself, and him all moved into a house
together. And he acted out because. Well, because kids don’t always know how to
say how they’re feeling. To be continued……

Rad Dad!! Why another crowd funded project?

Quick Rad Dad: Yo! It’s official, the Rad Dad magazine collective just launched a kickstarter to support the creation of three new magazines for the year of 2015! But before I get into the particulars of this I wanna talk about why I get down with this crew and why it I’m involved in another crowd funded project. Were a multicultural/background crew of dads who wanna continue to make a dope magazine that is funded by cool ass people like yourself, not the military or patriarchal bullshit. Wanna talk about our children being murdered? Rampant disrespect of our sisters and trans bredren? Wanna help us raise these babies right? Become a contributor to the mag.

Long RAD DAD: First, when I became a dad I made a commitment to my son to always be there, to always do my best, to teach, love, and to protect him in anyway I can. There are some days when I have triumphed at this amazingly and days when I’ve failed horribly. When you are a young father you think you are all alone out there. Sometimes you get into arguments with your partner, your parents, your partners parents, people on the street,etc. There are always people trying to tell you how to raise your child. And truth be told you $#%& up a lot. But it is priceless when you find another father willing to offer advice, not to tell what you’re doing wrong but to confide in you that they screwed up too. And to tell you that it will get better and that despite of race, class, background, gender, whatever you can do it. I’ve been fortunate to get some good conversations with dads like this of all kind of backgrounds, rich, poor, black, white, asian, latino, transgender. I think that a lot of Tv, media, and news don’t tell enough of our stories as fathers. Especially these moments when we reach out to one another and show love.

I read the Rad Dad zine as just another guy before I met Tomas Moniz or the rest of the crew. A fellow dad shared it with me. i love zines for their attitude of “do it yourself”. Zine makers don’t wait for funding or a publisher, or advertisements; they just make it happen. And that is what Tomas did with countless other dads for nearly a decade. Last year he got a cast of characters together to make a new form of that zine happen. He crowd funded the 3 issues we have put out in 2014, the first of which, my work was on the cover for. And now we’re going to do it again.

Why crowd funding? It was explained to me when I was just a child literally that a system exists which works towards a goal, one goal. That system of Capitalism has many working and moving parts here in the US and globally which strive for money, control, and power. It enforces its control through many means and Patriarchy is one of them. Patriarchy is a disease that says women are less than. Its one which puts women down, asks men to beat, curse, and disgrace them. And it teaches men to pick up a gun instead, rape, or fuck a woman and leave-instead of raising a child, getting consent, and showing love to one’s fellow human being. Now believe me, I am no saint and have fucked up before. But I believe in this magazines potential to reach parents and parents to be out there, especially young men. I believe we and the people we reach out to have something to say that goes against the system of Patriarchy and Capitalism. It ain’t the end all to be all, but it is definitely a magazine that isn’t going to be quiet or accept adds from cigarette companies and the National Guard, feel me? So we turn to crowd funding because we know there are people who agree with us, and we know that there are folks who could make up their own mind about parenting if they had another view point to chose from. Ok, stepping off soapbox.

Reasons to support:
1. We are pro print! Get this thing in your hands, touch, feel it, pass it on

2. We are multicultural/multi-background crew of fathers, mothers, and allies. Diversity is important.

3. We are feminists who are dads, and are fighting against Patriarchy

4. We are a collective that collaborates to put this thing together

5. Rad Dad’s is not what we are, but what we aspire to be

6. We believe in Rad as in “Radical Parenting”, which sometimes challenges society and grandparents.

7. We hope to continue providing a platform to talk, vent, discuss, share, and celebrate parenthood.

Spread the word y’all, especially to blogs, sites, radio programs, and places that have the ear of the people. One love!

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Daddy Thoughts 6- Dad day again

Today while walking out of the movies on father’s day I held
my son on my back; giving him a piggy back ride, walking next to his mom. Strangely I was brought back
to a promise I made to him when he was just a itty bitty baby in his crib. I’m
sure my parents and step father made the same to me at some point. The promise
was to be there for him, to be his guardian angel with or without wings (watched Maleficent). To do
my best, even though I might #$%& up, and I definitely do occasionally. I
lose my temper sometimes when I have passed the point of asking nicely for him to
clean up his toys. I have been late to pick him up from school before once.
Maybe twice. I once fed my child some moldy rice (ewww, yuck) and
didn’t realize what the funny smell was. Bad dad. But, through the bumps and scrapes,
I’m still here and so is he. I occasionally screw up, trying my best to make due with a graphic novel
here, a smoothie there, a lesson in cracking eggs, and a regular “I Love You”.
Said and done with all of my heart. This father’s day I did not spend it with
my father or my step father even though I would have liked to have them both in
the same room (maybe when I get married?). But, I did have a pretty awesome
Fathers day with my son, his mom, a card, small gifts, ice cream, a trip to the record store, deep
dish pizza, and a movie. I am a co-parent. I raise my son with my son’s mother
together, through ups and downs.

I want to give a shout out to all the fathers out there
today who like me have made a commitment and who will live and transition
fulfilling it.  I want to say a prayer of forgiveness to any who feel shame for making a mistake, let it go and step forward. I want to say a prayer for those who are in pain mental or physical who could use our wishes. And I want to give a special shout out to the Rad Dad Collective for
giving me a new place to share my energy and thoughts on parenting, even if it is
just by helping other dads share theirs. I feel quite hopeful this year for new
lessons and new opportunities. Peace!

And (shameless self promoting here) in case achem* you have been under a rock or taking a break
from social media, I have launched the campaign to release my first children’s
book called “Furqan’s First Flat Top” funded by a crowd of fathers and mothers, and book lovers like you. 
Take care dads.