This is a really touching video, so inspiring to see. Great to see groups like this, Fathers Incorporated (ATL), Black Men Smile(ATL), Fathers Corps (Bay Area), and others doing the work.
Hey parents and folks who know parents to be the new anthology of Rad Dads, moms, and parents edited by the founder of Rad Dad Tomas Moniz. I’m happy to be a part of this book and to hold space with other parents when talking about the love, struggles, and strife. It features joints I’ve seen from the Rad Dad magazine and other pieces from zines. You can cop the book here at PM Press.
Here is some more info about the book:
Editor: Tomas Moniz • Foreword by Ariel Gore
Publisher: PM Press
Page count: 296
Quick Rad Dad: Yo! It’s official, the Rad Dad magazine collective just launched a kickstarter to support the creation of three new magazines for the year of 2015! But before I get into the particulars of this I wanna talk about why I get down with this crew and why it I’m involved in another crowd funded project. Were a multicultural/background crew of dads who wanna continue to make a dope magazine that is funded by cool ass people like yourself, not the military or patriarchal bullshit. Wanna talk about our children being murdered? Rampant disrespect of our sisters and trans bredren? Wanna help us raise these babies right? Become a contributor to the mag.
Long RAD DAD: First, when I became a dad I made a commitment to my son to always be there, to always do my best, to teach, love, and to protect him in anyway I can. There are some days when I have triumphed at this amazingly and days when I’ve failed horribly. When you are a young father you think you are all alone out there. Sometimes you get into arguments with your partner, your parents, your partners parents, people on the street,etc. There are always people trying to tell you how to raise your child. And truth be told you $#%& up a lot. But it is priceless when you find another father willing to offer advice, not to tell what you’re doing wrong but to confide in you that they screwed up too. And to tell you that it will get better and that despite of race, class, background, gender, whatever you can do it. I’ve been fortunate to get some good conversations with dads like this of all kind of backgrounds, rich, poor, black, white, asian, latino, transgender. I think that a lot of Tv, media, and news don’t tell enough of our stories as fathers. Especially these moments when we reach out to one another and show love.
I read the Rad Dad zine as just another guy before I met Tomas Moniz or the rest of the crew. A fellow dad shared it with me. i love zines for their attitude of “do it yourself”. Zine makers don’t wait for funding or a publisher, or advertisements; they just make it happen. And that is what Tomas did with countless other dads for nearly a decade. Last year he got a cast of characters together to make a new form of that zine happen. He crowd funded the 3 issues we have put out in 2014, the first of which, my work was on the cover for. And now we’re going to do it again.
Why crowd funding? It was explained to me when I was just a child literally that a system exists which works towards a goal, one goal. That system of Capitalism has many working and moving parts here in the US and globally which strive for money, control, and power. It enforces its control through many means and Patriarchy is one of them. Patriarchy is a disease that says women are less than. Its one which puts women down, asks men to beat, curse, and disgrace them. And it teaches men to pick up a gun instead, rape, or fuck a woman and leave-instead of raising a child, getting consent, and showing love to one’s fellow human being. Now believe me, I am no saint and have fucked up before. But I believe in this magazines potential to reach parents and parents to be out there, especially young men. I believe we and the people we reach out to have something to say that goes against the system of Patriarchy and Capitalism. It ain’t the end all to be all, but it is definitely a magazine that isn’t going to be quiet or accept adds from cigarette companies and the National Guard, feel me? So we turn to crowd funding because we know there are people who agree with us, and we know that there are folks who could make up their own mind about parenting if they had another view point to chose from. Ok, stepping off soapbox.
Reasons to support:
1. We are pro print! Get this thing in your hands, touch, feel it, pass it on
2. We are multicultural/multi-background crew of fathers, mothers, and allies. Diversity is important.
3. We are feminists who are dads, and are fighting against Patriarchy
4. We are a collective that collaborates to put this thing together
5. Rad Dad’s is not what we are, but what we aspire to be
6. We believe in Rad as in “Radical Parenting”, which sometimes challenges society and grandparents.
7. We hope to continue providing a platform to talk, vent, discuss, share, and celebrate parenthood.
Spread the word y’all, especially to blogs, sites, radio programs, and places that have the ear of the people. One love!
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Today while walking out of the movies on father’s day I held
my son on my back; giving him a piggy back ride, walking next to his mom. Strangely I was brought back
to a promise I made to him when he was just a itty bitty baby in his crib. I’m
sure my parents and step father made the same to me at some point. The promise
was to be there for him, to be his guardian angel with or without wings (watched Maleficent). To do
my best, even though I might #$%& up, and I definitely do occasionally. I
lose my temper sometimes when I have passed the point of asking nicely for him to
clean up his toys. I have been late to pick him up from school before once.
Maybe twice. I once fed my child some moldy rice (ewww, yuck) and
didn’t realize what the funny smell was. Bad dad. But, through the bumps and scrapes,
I’m still here and so is he. I occasionally screw up, trying my best to make due with a graphic novel
here, a smoothie there, a lesson in cracking eggs, and a regular “I Love You”.
Said and done with all of my heart. This father’s day I did not spend it with
my father or my step father even though I would have liked to have them both in
the same room (maybe when I get married?). But, I did have a pretty awesome
Fathers day with my son, his mom, a card, small gifts, ice cream, a trip to the record store, deep
dish pizza, and a movie. I am a co-parent. I raise my son with my son’s mother
together, through ups and downs.